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Important things to keep in mind during the first
offline date with someone you met on an online dating service
Having decided that you and the person you met on the online dating
service want to meet in person it is likely that the biggest factor
in the first date will be your nerves. Try and relax and just be yourself.
Pretending to be something that you are not will just lead to long
term complications.
Keeping the conversation going on the first date is very important.
Having met on an online dating service you will most likely have spend
many hours online chatting to each other and would have covered various
topics. Use the topics that you covered before as starting points
for the conversation. Topics such as sport, hobbies and work are good
ones to refer back to when the conversation is drying up. Remember
to keep the conversation light in tone and do not argue.
It is important to take interest in what your date is saying. Pay
attention to what they are saying and don't hesitate to give a balanced
opinion. Do not look at your clock the whole time or look over your
date shoulder; it gives the impression that you are not interested
in what they have to say. Be honest in your conversation and do not
be afraid to let your date know if you are having a good time.
When things are not going well and you feel unsure or uncomfortable
for any reason, excuse yourself and leave through the back door. Listen
to your instincts and do not hesitate to ask for help if you feel
that you have to get of there.
The following are some things to do that will ensure that the first
date goes smoother. As a start make sure you are on time for the date.
Try and make your date feel as comfortable as possible at all times.
Laugh at your date's jokes and keep the conversation flowing. Steer
the conversation towards the interests of your date as much as possible.
Be confident and show respect to your date's wishes but above all
just be yourself.
On the first date make sure that you are not late. Do not talk about
yourself or ex girlfriends the whole night. Show respect for your
date's principles and believes at all times. Do not ask to many questions
on the first date and remember to thank him/her for the date afterwards.
Proposing marriage or talking about having kids is never a good idea
on the first date.
When it is time to end the date try and do it on a funny note. When
the topic of a second date comes up be honest in your reply. Finally
do not be to optimistic about the success of the first date. Most
people are nervous on the first date and even more so if you met the
person on an online dating service. If the first date was a disaster
it is sometimes worth it to give it another go on a second date.
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